20 Ways to Say No

Stop me before I volunteer again.

Part of my recovery from depression is learning to say no. This week my therapist sent me home with an assignment–make a list of 20 ways to say no. What does this have to do with a preconception blog? In addition to preparing your body to conceive, it’s important to create space in your life for a baby. Do you expect to shove an extra human between a full-time job, housework, socializing, and whatever else you’ve managed to pour into your schedule? I didn’t think so.

Say it with me now…

  1. No.
  2. I don’t have time to do that.
  3. I have a prior commitment.
  4. I have to wash my hair tonight.
  5. Thanks, but no thanks.
  6. My schedule is already full.
  7. I don’t have the energy for that right now.
  8. My fertile phase is coming up, so I’ll be busy trying for a baby.
  9. I’m not the best person for that job.
  10. My family needs me.
  11. I’m overextended at the moment.
  12. That’s not part of my recovery plan.
  13. I need some me time.
  14. Why don’t you ask Billy Bob to do that instead?
  15. Now’s not a good time.
  16. I’m not feeling up to it.
  17. I don’t think that’s a good idea.
  18. I can’t help.
  19. Absolutely not.
  20. No way.

What’s your favorite way to say no?


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Where personal experience meets clinical and cultural preconceptions about birth and women's health.
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2 Responses to 20 Ways to Say No

  1. I have a standing yoga class on Tuesdays and Thursdays, so most people know not to ask me to do things on those evenings. Actually, I tend to avoid doing anything during the week! I cook a lot, which might not seem like the most compelling reason, but when I explain that we’ve got a whole ton of CSA veggies to deal with before the next batch arrives, they understand. On the weekends, I usually just say that we need time to do things around the house, which is true. I don’t apologize for it, either. Congratulations on learning to say “no”–it’s an invaluable skill!

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